The g-spot is named in honor of German physician Ernst Grafenberg, but was discovered as a source of sexual pleasure by world-renowned sex educator Beverly Whipple, Ph.D.

Described as "an area approximately the size of a dime, located about two-thirds the length of your middle finger inside the vagina entrance ... on the tummy side of the vaginal wall" by bestselling author Lou Paget, many women have difficulty finding their g-spot, because its size, dimension, and location vary from woman to woman.

Dr. Whipple suggests that the easiest way to find it is by getting in a squat position, putting two fingers up inside yourself, and feeling around for a small area whose tissue surface is a bit ridgy. Think dime-size, though some g-spots are bigger. If in encountering this area you feel stimulated -- if not aroused -- as you touch yourself, then you have more than likely found your spot!

Hot Spot Technique

Show your partner the location of your g-spot manually, then suggest a position which maximizes his ability to reach and stimulate it. Try rear entry, standing up. Keep in mind another Lou Paget gem: "rear entry is especially good for women who have delivered vaginally, since their nerve pathways are more 'alert' and sensitive to receiving stimulation because the vaginal barrel is more flexible and the penis can hit the right spot more easily."

Time to Play

Remember the excitement of reaching the end of the school year? We were so ready to leave our books behind and throw ourselves into the glories of summer -- swimming, running around, being in the sun ... getting hot, sweaty, and tired in a purely physical way. Isn't that the nature of play, after all?

Let's try and infuse our own lives, especially our intimate relationships, with some of that same mindless passion for play. Here are some night-time tips:

Don't be so quick to turn on the air conditioning. With the windows open, a warm night with the night sounds in the background can help soften the mood and release the day.

Turn up the heat. Start by simply massaging each other, avoiding the genitals. Let your skin and muscles relax and warm up.

Whisper something you'd like your lover to try on you; and ask your partner to do the same. Make sure the requests are whispered; make sure you deliver.